-Check your heart rate when your spouse and this person are together. Is it perfectly normal or are you extremely uncomfortable?
-ask yourself if your spouse would approve of your conversation/activities?
-has your spouse questioned the relationship before?
-would you allow your spouse to read the emails, texts, and messages you send back and forth?
-are you defaming your spouse to this person?
-are you sharing dreams and fantasies with this person that you haven’t shared with your spouse?
Step one: pray, pray and pray some more. Pray about what to say, what to do and how to handle this situation. More importantly wait for an answer. Allow God to move on your behalf because you see what leaning to your own understanding has got you.
Matthew 26:41 Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.