Catfish (When Cheating Goes Wrong!)

So my daughter was with us for a few days recuperating from the birth of her second child. As a young 20 something she watches some shows I would not have experienced otherwise. One of which is Catfish. The premise of this show seems to be exposing fake online dating profiles or pics. Interesting enough, but one particular show stood out to me.

In this show the young lady (who by the way, is married) has been communicating with a man she met online. She wasn’t seeking a relationship but found a friend, a listening ear, understanding and affirming support. Although she was never willing to meet him in person, she knew she was caught up in an emotional affair and was woman enough to come clean.

We eventually learned her online friend was her husband just testing her commitment, and in the end they apologized and lived happily ever after (or at least we hope).

This prompted a question for me. What if instead of concocting that elaborate scheme, the husband just listened to his wife. What if he was emotionally there for her and allowed her to cry on his shoulder and pour out her heart to him on a regular basis? What if instead of assuming he didn’t want to talk because of his military background, the wife actually allowed him to talk through his trauma? What if she told him how lonely she felt and how much she misses their relationship? Things that make you go hmmmm!

It would at least have saved us the agony of watching this foolishness and actually wondering who “Titus” was. And who makes up a name like Titus any way, but I digress (sorry to all the Titus’ out there but err ummm was that the husband’s super hero name or what)?

 

This couple prompted

5 ways to keep your spouse off dating sites

(or shopping sites that lead to emotional affairs as in this case)

  1. Talk. Communicate. Be the ear your spouse needs and let him/her in on what’s taking place in your life.
  2. Listen. God gave us 2 ears and one mouth, so listen at least twice as much as you talk.
  3. Love on Your spouse. Touch is important and vital to quality relationships. I’ve heard a woman needs at least 7-8 meaningful touches in a day to feel loved. Touch is therapeutic, and it brings comfort to the recipient and the giver. So get to touching!
  4. Be nostalgic. Date often! Don’t lose touch with the things you did to become a couple. You went on dates held hands waking through the park, and talked on the phone at night. Reintroduce some of these things into your relationship now. If you wrote letters, get some fancy paper and a quill pen (do they even make these anymore) and get to writing.

 

We have a friend whose wife speaks a different native language. He decided to recruit her cousins to help him write an entire rap in her native language and he performed it for her, flubs and all. It was the corniest, most beautiful gift he could have given her. These are the things that need to keep occurring.

  1. Be open to hear what God has to say about your relationship. You know I always have to have a foundation in the only one who can truly make a difference in your relationship. I’m sure if the catfish couple had truly consulted God before embarrassing themselves on a national/international TV show He could’ve saved them.

 

We do pray for that couple, and in a weird kind of way, it was cute that he would go to such lengths to please his wife. It was definitely reassuring that she didn’t take the bait and meet ‘Titus and constantly stated she loved her husband.

 

 

Now back to the business at hand, you and your marriage. Commit you relationship to prayer. Pray for and with your spouse. I know it’s sometimes awkward and time consuming, but it works wonders.

 

Enjoy your spouse! Talk! Listen! Love! Reminisce! And Pray!

 

The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth.

Psalm 145:18 (NIV)

 

Call on Him and save yourself and your relationship some Titus level embarrassment.

 

We eventually learned her online friend was her husband just testing her commitment, and in the end they apologized and lived happily ever after (or at least we hope).

This prompted a question for me. What if instead of concocting that elaborate scheme, the husband just listened to his wife. What if he was emotionally there for her and allowed her to cry on his shoulder and pour out her heart to him on a regular basis? What if instead of assuming he didn’t want to talk because of his military background, the wife actually allowed him to talk through his trauma? What if she told him how lonely she felt and how much she misses their relationship? Things that make you go hmmmm!

It would at least have saved us the agony of watching this foolishness and actually wondering who “Titus” was. And who makes up a name like Titus any way, but I digress (sorry to all the Titus’ out there but err ummm was that the husband’s super hero name or what)?

 

This couple prompted

5 ways to keep your spouse off dating sites (or shopping sites that lead to emotional affairs as in this case)

  1. Talk. Communicate. Be the ear your spouse needs and let him/her in on what’s taking place in your life.
  2. Listen. God gave us 2 ears and one mouth, so listen at least twice as much as you talk.
  3. Love on Your spouse. Touch is important and vital to quality relationships. I’ve heard a woman needs at least 7-8 meaningful touches in a day to feel loved. Touch is therapeutic, and it brings comfort to the recipient and the giver. So get to touching!
  4. Be nostalgic. Date often! Don’t lose touch with the things you did to become a couple. You went on dates held hands waking through the park, and talked on the phone at night. Reintroduce some of these things into your relationship now. If you wrote letters, get some fancy paper and a quill pen (do they even make these anymore) and get to writing.

 

We have a friend whose wife speaks a different native language. He decided to recruit her cousins to help him write an entire rap in her native language and he performed it for her, flubs and all. It was the corniest, most beautiful gift he could have given her. These are the things that need to keep occurring.

  1. Be open to hear what God has to say about your relationship. You know I always have to have a foundation in the only one who can truly make a difference in your relationship. I’m sure if the catfish couple had truly consulted God before embarrassing themselves on a national/international TV show He could’ve saved them.

 

We do pray for that couple, and in a weird kind of way, it was cute that he would go to such lengths to please his wife. It was definitely reassuring that she didn’t take the bait and meet ‘Titus and constantly stated she loved her husband.

 

 

Now back to the business at hand, you and your marriage. Commit you relationship to prayer. Pray for and with your spouse. I know it’s sometimes awkward and time consuming, but it works wonders.

 

Enjoy your spouse! Talk! Listen! Love! Reminisce! And Pray!

 

The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth.

Psalm 145:18 (NIV)

 

Call on Him and save yourself and your relationship some Titus level embarrassment.

So my daughter was with us for a few days recuperating from the birth of her second child. As a young 20 something she watches some shows I would not have experienced otherwise. One of which is Catfish. The premise of this show seems to be exposing fake online dating profiles or pics. Interesting enough, but one particular show stood out to me.

In this show the young lady (who by the way, is married) has been communicating with a man she met online. She wasn’t seeking a relationship but found a friend, a listening ear, understanding and affirming support. Although she was never willing to meet him in person, she knew she was caught up in an emotional affair and was woman enough to come clean.

We eventually learned her online friend was her husband just testing her commitment, and in the end they apologized and lived happily ever after (or at least we hope).

This prompted a question for me. What if instead of concocting that elaborate scheme, the husband just listened to his wife. What if he was emotionally there for her and allowed her to cry on his shoulder and pour out her heart to him on a regular basis? What if instead of assuming he didn’t want to talk because of his military background, the wife actually allowed him to talk through his trauma? What if she told him how lonely she felt and how much she misses their relationship? Things that make you go hmmmm!

It would at least have saved us the agony of watching this foolishness and actually wondering who “Titus” was. And who makes up a name like Titus any way, but I digress (sorry to all the Titus’ out there but err ummm was that the husband’s super hero name or what)?

 

This couple prompted

5 ways to keep your spouse off dating sites (or shopping sites that lead to emotional affairs as in this case)

  1. Talk. Communicate. Be the ear your spouse needs and let him/her in on what’s taking place in your life.
  2. Listen. God gave us 2 ears and one mouth, so listen at least twice as much as you talk.
  3. Love on Your spouse. Touch is important and vital to quality relationships. I’ve heard a woman needs at least 7-8 meaningful touches in a day to feel loved. Touch is therapeutic, and it brings comfort to the recipient and the giver. So get to touching!
  4. Be nostalgic. Date often! Don’t lose touch with the things you did to become a couple. You went on dates held hands waking through the park, and talked on the phone at night. Reintroduce some of these things into your relationship now. If you wrote letters, get some fancy paper and a quill pen (do they even make these anymore) and get to writing.

 

We have a friend whose wife speaks a different native language. He decided to recruit her cousins to help him write an entire rap in her native language and he performed it for her, flubs and all. It was the corniest, most beautiful gift he could have given her. These are the things that need to keep occurring.

  1. Be open to hear what God has to say about your relationship. You know I always have to have a foundation in the only one who can truly make a difference in your relationship. I’m sure if the catfish couple had truly consulted God before embarrassing themselves on a national/international TV show He could’ve saved them.

 

We do pray for that couple, and in a weird kind of way, it was cute that he would go to such lengths to please his wife. It was definitely reassuring that she didn’t take the bait and meet ‘Titus and constantly stated she loved her husband.

 

 

Now back to the business at hand, you and your marriage. Commit you relationship to prayer. Pray for and with your spouse. I know it’s sometimes awkward and time consuming, but it works wonders.

 

Enjoy your spouse! Talk! Listen! Love! Reminisce! And Pray!

 

The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call on Him in truth.

Psalm 145:18 (NIV)

 

Call on Him and save yourself and your relationship some Titus level embarrassment.

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